You have probably heard the statement, "want what you have". The enemy is always ready to deceive and devour those who dwell in the land of discontentment. A wife who is able to keep an attitude of “I’m here because I want to be” has not only become a defense against many enemy forces in her own marriage but she has also created an area of great expectation for her daughter and her future marriage. In other words, why would a daughter want to save herself for something that looks miserable? It’s a proven fact that children learn what they live and a woman who lives scornfully inside her marriage need not expect her daughters to have a high regard for it. On the other hand, a woman who knows how to celebrate her husband within her home will not only help cultivate a healthy desire but also a hope of something worth waiting for in all her children.
The Shulamite woman was able to express clearly how she felt about her marriage. She certainly displayed an attitude of “I’m glad to be here”. She was able to model a woman who was content and at peace with how things had turned out. Her celebration of her husband was enticing and admonishing to us all! She definitely knew how to talk to the King. She understood how to affirm his masculinity, praise his strength and appreciate his power. What man could resist such a woman? I mean, if you were a man, wouldn’t you want to be with someone who takes pleasure in your company rather than be with someone who makes you feel like a chore? As Christian women, we should always remember that under our husband’s Christian tag is a human tag and God made us human first. The sin nature has an unhealthy appetite but there is such a thing as human hunger (more on that some other time).
Having trouble celebrating your husband today? Maybe desire isn’t what it used to be? Then be encouraged by the study of the Shulamite woman and her ability to find peace. She was able to sustain her desire for the King by keeping her focus on his strength. She describes his body as carved ivory, his hands as rods of gold, and his legs as pillars of marble (all of these symbolize great value and strength). Every man has his own value and strength whether his title is "King" or not. If you ask God to anoint your eyes, you will see your husband’s masculinity as never before and your praise of him will unlock many doors of new desire between you both. I tell women, “never underestimate the power of attraction” and most people will get up early for something they desire (and even stay up late). There are perversions and counterfeits to both sides, but it’s only through the connection between masculinity and femininity that people find true fulfillment and peace.
Log on next week and find out more about the Shulamite woman and how to find peace in study #4, "The Fight for Her Sexual Identity".
Loving U Like a Sister,
Regina
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